Family relationship tactics lesson #1

Most everyone has some sort of family, good bad or indifferent.

As I age, I realize that I have the freedom to change the nature of my relationships with my family in order to protect myself from negative energies, vibes, attitudes or what ever you want to call them.

Based on behavior displayed by other members of my family, I can decide if I want to continue to pursue a relationship with them or cut them out of my life if they display damaging, moronic or ignorant behavior. This is a powerful realization, but with it comes the courage to act on it as well.

We cannot simply decide to cut one of our siblings or a mother out of our life with out it taking a hell of a lot of courage to do so. One must prepare a case with sound reason behind it in order to prosecute. This case has to be discussed among confidants and edited for selfish motives, immaturity, insensitivity or insecurities.

When you are ready to launch, do it boldly without remorse. Put your foot down, say what is bothering you about the other's behavior and deliver a sound warning. This will feel good after the fact and will garner respect immediately.

We love our family members dearly, but we also love our own selves as well. If one is threatening to control, abuse, insult or disrespect, cut them off for awhile. Let time school them on how you are different now, and will not put up with their moronic behavior.

Be sure to tell the other members of your family what you are doing so as to not cause an avalanche of retribution to fall on yourself. Carefully state your case to the other members of your family and then be honest about your reasons. They will respect you beyond your wildest dreams.

Family is inescapable in life. If you do not take measures to protect yourself from te toxic members, you will continue down the path of least resistance which in the end is damaging to you as you change and evolve into who you are and becoming.