When parents get old...
We all have parents of some kind. Some biological, some step parents, some nuclear parents etc etc.
Some of us are close to our parents, some are estranged and some have never even met them.
For those who maintain some sort of relationship with their parents, inevitably they run into the fact that they are growing older and that you now are responsible for them instead of them being responsible for you, if you are to keep the relationship growing and consistant that is. This is just one of the laws of nature I find.
It is at this point where communication styles and heirarchy perceptions must be discussed, in order to continue with any sort of harmionic overtones that may be part of the relationship. This inevitably comes up, and if it is not addressed and discussed then the potential for the growth away from one another is inevitable. This will in tern lead to damage, lonliness and insecurity for both individuals in the relationship.
Regardless of how difficult it is to discuss such matters, it must be done in order to move on and grow further into ones life. As our parents get older, they become more vulnerable and fearful of life, as they are not able to cope as they used to when they had all of their faculties in top shape. It is indeed cathartic to realize this without them actually admiting to such a phenomena. So when it does, and the signals are right there in front of your face, it is time to take action and formulate some sort of dialogue that addresses and raises awareness of new perceptions in the realationship.
To ignore such signals is analogous to losing an arm or a leg.
Some of us are close to our parents, some are estranged and some have never even met them.
For those who maintain some sort of relationship with their parents, inevitably they run into the fact that they are growing older and that you now are responsible for them instead of them being responsible for you, if you are to keep the relationship growing and consistant that is. This is just one of the laws of nature I find.
It is at this point where communication styles and heirarchy perceptions must be discussed, in order to continue with any sort of harmionic overtones that may be part of the relationship. This inevitably comes up, and if it is not addressed and discussed then the potential for the growth away from one another is inevitable. This will in tern lead to damage, lonliness and insecurity for both individuals in the relationship.
Regardless of how difficult it is to discuss such matters, it must be done in order to move on and grow further into ones life. As our parents get older, they become more vulnerable and fearful of life, as they are not able to cope as they used to when they had all of their faculties in top shape. It is indeed cathartic to realize this without them actually admiting to such a phenomena. So when it does, and the signals are right there in front of your face, it is time to take action and formulate some sort of dialogue that addresses and raises awareness of new perceptions in the realationship.
To ignore such signals is analogous to losing an arm or a leg.
posted by savvysymbiont @ 9:53 AM
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